What are your Research Results?

Originally Posted on August 13th, 2010

Most interesting conversation with a new friend last week…

 Now this was a part of “the code” apparently. I had to drag it out of him and even so, I know he didn’t tell me the whole story. But the way he was excited about this woman, I had to understand this, I needed to learn this!

 He told me about this woman he was interested to get to know.  He found her “thinking” to be very appealing and interesting.  So he did his “research”. He started asking a few mutual friends about her.  Most responses went like…

• Nope, don’t even try.
• She’s not gonna give you the time of day
• No chance
• You better bring your A game
• I don’t know if you’re on her level

#whoisthischick? Frig.

Somehow excited by this (you men are interesting creatures) he dug further….

He knew her relationship status, number of dependents, momma and daddy national insurance numbers. Lol. He said it was like “NO way, this can’t be real,” so guess where to next??

Facebook. Dun dun dun dun.

Somehow through someone he got on her facebook. (I’ve always maintained that facebook is the devil).

He said there were 2 or 3 pictures, no serious details about her life and nothing even remotely negative???  A little clue of what she does for fun but nothing profane, nothing talking down to people, nothing making fun of people, nothing ranting about who pissed her off; her boss, some guy, the people on the road, the utility company..….hold on, he was LOOKING for something to be wrong, he needed some more information.  He said….and I quote “I didn’t know women like that still existed in The Bahamas”.

I should’ve been upset!  There are LOTS of wonderful women (moi included, #somodest) who are forward thinking, who don’t have drama, do drama, like drama……but I got his point.

 Now the point for me was really interesting when I reflected on the conversation.  What do you give to the world?  I’m not saying you should not be your authentic self….if that includes a rant or two….get it in! LOL.  But….are you giving them too much? Hmmmm.  Is there any mystery, ANY thing to guess about you, any research to be done, anything to make someone see the swagger and turn their heads like WHO is THAT? 

 Or do we all know, already? – Yall know JUST what I mean……hmmmm!

 This is not only in reference to relationships, but in life.  You don’t need to give everyone everything.  We don’t all have to know what you’re doing in every single aspect of your life.  Every time you share yourself or your “business” with people that need not know, you share that energy with them…..and guess what, you then have less to work with.

 This isn’t just for facebook now, this goes with you everywhere.  Even in your circle, at work in your daily life, are you sharing yourself with everyone hoping for validation and attention of some sort to the point that we ALL know more than our share?

 Keep your energy where it needs to be, make your ish happen and keep em guessing!  Whether in business, relationships or life, that’s how you get them coming back

 Happy Friday Yall!

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Are you happy with your own life to the point that you don’t need to draw attention out of others to validate yourself?  If you aren’t, take some time in personal reflection to figure out why and work on it.  I’m pulling for you, I know deep down you’re truly FABULOUS all on your own!

 Autopilot living  is #unfabulous…….stop settling for lifestyle, political and religious dogmas that you have been fed.  Get to know thyself.

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AFTER PARTY!!

YAY! LOL, someone asked me the other day, what’s with these number signs (#) yall use everywhere?  They are hashtags that I believe started on twitter.  They generally represent a topic you can search on twitter by clicking on them, but it’s also now been turned into a kind of punch line indicator…….#yadig?

That reminds me….get yall arses on twitter and let’s have some random fun!

www.twitter.com/raehfabulous